There’s a lot I need to say on this but I’ve been too busy to write it down.
I need to get something off my chest very quickly though so here goes:
Sexism can really just smack you in the face out of nowhere. You can be totally unaware of it, you can have such a balanced, healthy self-image going on in your mind and just have absolutely no idea that the person you’re talking to is thinking c. 1950’s. It’s frightening and very unsettling when you become familiarized with their reality.
Just wanted to post on here that while it’s very unsettling, obviously what they think does not matter and does not diminish your worth. In short, what they think is invalid and in fact WRONG, TOTALLY COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY INCORRECT AND ILLOGICAL. That seems obvious, perhaps, but I will say that my first reaction was to blame myself for their sexist thoughts, as if I somehow elicited them.
I was lucky enough to have someone remind me that it wasn’t my fault. I don’t know if you all have that so I wanted to be that person for you.
No one can define you except… you.
That’s all for now.